Antedating gay words

Some of my best friends are lexicographers. The other month I took it upon myself to define and antedate the word caron in the specific sense of “haček.” I found the first reference, in a WordPerfect user manual I still have. I submitted that to the OED.

Then I wondered why the hell I was wasting my time on a weird typography/Unicode sense of a synonym for an existing word. Shouldn’t I be antedating gay speech before queers and LGBTs and trannies get all of it banned, as they are trying to do with tranny? They are literally defining us out of existence and literally rewriting and denying our history. Over my dead body. (I shouldn’t tempt fate there, given that eldergays are dying, often at their own hands.)

Using only the OED as a definition source, and with frequent reference to the online archive of OutWeek (which I wrote for, and which archive I have downloaded and OCRed), here is what I have so far. (Permanent updated location.)

Not defined at all

1. ACT UP
2. bareback (not in that sense); also need bug chaser, gift giver, creampie, cum bucket, and similar
3. basket
4. baths
5. beard
6. bent
7. BJ
8. butt plug
9. chicken
10. circuit party
11. confirmed bachelor
12. cut, uncut
13. diesel dyke
14. dinge queen; rice queen; X queen
15. fag hag
16. French active, ～ passive; Greek active, ～ passive
17. friend of Dorothy
18. Gaysian
19. GWM and all variants; must avoid the tendency to lie, as in the title of the film Single White Female
20. HAART
21. hanky code
22. helium-heels
23. husbear
24. invert
25. labyris (ambiguous in OutWeek)
26. load
27. light in the loafers
28. marriage equality
29. meat rack
30. Miss Thing
31. molly house
32. MSM
33. nancy
34. PNP
35. poppers
36. positoid
37. read, v.
38. same-sex marriage 
39. seropositive, seronegative, serocloseted
40. shemale
41. sister
42. spousal benefits
43. switch
44. tearoom
45. Tina
46. top, bottom, versatile (the last ambiguous in OutWeek)
47. trade
48. tranny
49. trick
50. tubs
51. undetectable
52. Uranian
53. VGL
54. viatica*

Fully or somewhat defined

1. antiretroviral
2. bear (1989–2004)
3. combination therapy
4. fisting (including cite by Andrew Nikiforuk)
5. fuck buddy
6. gay marriage (huge number of gay * phrasal entries)
7. leatherman, leather bar
8. lover [weakly defined, but with gay reference: “Chiefly with possessive adjective: either member of a loving couple; a person in an (exclusive) sexual and romantic relationship with another”]
9. PCP, KS (but they do have K/S), OI
10. positive (weak indirect definiton), negative
11. poz (inadequate definition)
12. PWA, PLWA, PWARC
13. rainbow flag
14. safe(r) sex
15. viral load
16. well-hung